Of love and other stuffs...

Funny...: “To die by your side is such a heavenly way to die.” -The Smiths.

What is love?

The question that has fascinated me till today and till the day I lay to rest. As there is no one answer to it and almost never the same answer given if you ask anyone the question "what is love?". I don't understand why people respond differently when asked this simple question, but what I do know is that you will find more relevant answers form people without even asking them the questions in the first place; all you have to do is sit a while, then watch and listen... and maybe you will come across conversations that reveals what love truly means:

Love is when you walk all the way to the other side of the classroom to sharpen your pencil in order to walk by him/her, then you realize that your pencil... is a BALLPEN.

# 2
" Tom had learned anything... it was that you can't ascribe great cosmic significance to a simple earthly event. Coincidence, that's all anything ever is, nothing more than coincidence... Tom had finally learned, there are no miracles. There's no such thing as fate, nothing is meant to be. He knew, he was sure of it now... or is he?" - 500 Days of Summer

# 3
Math tells us three of the saddest love stories:
TANGENT; lines who had one chance to meet and then parted forever
PARALLEL; lines who were never meant to meet, and
ASYMPTOTES; who can get closer and closer but will never be together.

# 4
There are 2 dilemmas that rattle the human skull:
"How do you get rid of someone who won't go..." and
"How do you hang on to someone who won't stay?"

# 5
Clementine: This is it, Joel. It's going to be gone soon.
Joel: I know.
Clementine: What do we do?
Joel: Enjoy it.

# 6
Tom: What happened? Why - why didn't they work out?
Summer: What always happens. Life.

# 7
"The only problem with time mending things is that it takes a little longer."
"You lost the right to touch me when you left me."
"Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit." - Watermelon, Marian Keyes

# 8
Susannah: "Why is it that we can love so much that which only makes us cry?"
Irene: "Because it is that which calls us home to the heart." -By the Light of My Father's Smile, Alice Walker

# 9
Joel: [voice over] random thoughts for Valentine's day. Today is a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make people feel like crap.

# 10
"She said, 'I'm so afraid.' And I said, 'Why?' and she said, 'Because I'm so profoundly happy, Dr. Rasul. Happiness like this is frightening.' I asked her why and she said, 'They only let you be this happy if they're preparing to take something from you,' and I said, 'Hush up now. Enough of this silliness." - Kite Runner

# 11
"I think that there are some things you don't heal from. Not in this lifetime anyway," -Mad Dog, AW

# 12
"Tom: Ok but wait–wait. What happens, if you fall in love?
Summer:[she scoffs]
Tom: What?
Summer: You don’t believe that, do you?
Tom: It’s love, it’s not Santa Claus."
- 500 Days of Summer

# 13
"Summer: I woke up one morning and I just knew.
Tom: Knew what?
Summer: What I was never sure of with you."
- 500 Days of Summer

# 14
"Paul: Robin is better than the girl of my dreams. She's real." - 500 Days of Summer

# 15
Tom: I love how she makes me feel, like anything's possible, or like life is worth it.

# 16
Tom: Nobody loves Ringo Starr.
Summer: That's what I love about him.

# 17
Joel: [narration as Clementine acknowledges him by raising her coffee mug] Why do I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention?

# 18
"I believe there is one soul in all our time on earth that just matches our own. We are always looking for it, moving in its direction, but so often it is never found," - Manuelito,AW

# 19
In life, you will realize that the people you meet have a purpose. Some were put there to test you, some would use you, some would teach you. And some would bring out the better if not the best in you. Some may even cause you pain and heartache but one must learn to move on. So let go of the people who can't treat you right and hold on to those who love you back and see your worth...

# 20
"There's no such thing as love, it's fantasy..." -Summer

Funny, I know...

Hotel Song...


Come in...
Come in..
Come into my world I've got to show
Show show you
Come into my bed
I've got to know
Know know you

I have dreams of orca whales and owls
But I wake up in fear
You will never be my
You will never be my fool
Will never be my fool

Floaters in my eyes
Wake up in an hotel room
Cigarettes and lies
I am a child, it's too soon

I have dreams of orca whales and owls
But I wake up in fear
You will never be my
You will never be my fool
Will never be my fool

A little bag of cocaine
A little bag of cocaine
So who's the girl wearing my dress
I figured out her number
Inside a paper napkin
But I don't know her address I wade downstairs

The porter smiles to me a smile
I've bought
With a couple of gold coins
A sign that I've been caught

I have dreams of orca whales and owls
But I wake up in fear
You will never be my
You will never be my dear
Will never be my dear, dear friend
Dear dear friend, dear dear friend...

A little bag of cocaine
A little bag of cocaine
So who's the girl wearing my dress
I figured out her number
Inside a paper napkin
But I don't know her address

Come in, come in
Come into my world I've got to show
Show show you
Come into my bed
I've got to know
Know know you

I have dreams of orca whales and owls
But I wake up in fear
You will never be my
You will never be my dear
Will never be my dear, dear friend
Dear dear friend, dear dear friend...


"Someone suggests that;

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas, your dreams, before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.

You may avoid suffering and sorrow if you don’t risk,
But you simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love or live.

The greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing,
nothing and has nothing.

Only a person who risks is free."

Love is a temporary madness.

Love is a temporary madness.

It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision.

You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.

Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.
- Captain Corelli's Mandolin6. "Love is the beauty of the soul."
--St. Augustine

" The greatest pain that comes with love is loving someone you can't have."

The Next Small Thing : Why bigger isn't always better

Back to the Basics: How to use your (lack of) size to your advantage

Jason Fried, creator of some of the industry's most successful new Web applications, is the champion of an approach he calls "Getting Real." While developed with software companies in mind, Fried's principles can apply to any small business that strives to do more with less.

Underdo your competition: Businesses get caught up in a cycle of adding more features and services. Great opportunities exist for those who create the same products, but with more simplicity and ease of use.

Create services you would use: Few great product and service ideas come as a result of groupthink and committee meetings. Democracy is great, Fried says, but in the product-development arena, it rarely leads to great results. Great products are the result of solving problems for yourself—and then offering solutions to others.

Fund yourself: The more money you have, the more you'll waste, Fried says. He admits that outside funding is necessary for capital-intensive businesses, but for many service businesses—especially those utilizing technology or operating online—being able to turn your business concept into reality is getting less expensive by the day.

Take half: List all the features you'd like on your product and cut them in half, Fried advises. Then, cut that list in half. Being driven by time and budget rather than by your dream list of features will result in a much more solid, workable product that won't break the bank.

Call off the meetings: Fried is not a fan of endless meetings or documents filled with specifications and details that no one reads. He'd prefer to focus on the essentials—and those don't require a lot of meetings.

- By Rex Hammock, editor

Full story @ http://www.mybusinessmag.com/fullstory.php3?sid=1413


HTC phone carrot for Microsoft Office 2010 beta testers

KUALA LUMPUR: Are you interested to test drive the beta version of Microsoft Office 2010? If you are, you can now get yourself a copy at the local Microsoft Office 2010 site.

UP FOR GRABS: Microsoft said it will be giving away one new HTC HD2 Windows Phone every month for the best Office 2010 beta user testimonial.

Together with the launch of the website, Microsoft said it will be giving away one new HTC HD2 Windows Phone every month for the best Office 2010 beta user testimonial. The company added there will also be other gadgets and gifts up for grabs every week.

So far, over 2,000 Malaysians have tried out the beta version, and Microsoft is expecting 5,000 trials prior to the launch, the company said in a statement.

Microsoft Malaysia said that feedback from users have been hugely positive so far, with most saying that Office 2010 increases their productivity by reducing the amount of time needed to do what they want to do.

The Office 2010 beta download initiative is an open invitation to anyone looking to test the product and provide feedback to Microsoft to help shape the final product.

The website also has a list of new features in Office 2010, such as photo and video editing in PowerPoint; fast new data comparison tools in Excel; improved mail and calendar management in Outlook and Click-to-Run technology for faster downloads.

Other features include Office Backstage View, which replaces the file menu across the core Microsoft Office 2010 applications. This is aimed at helping users find commonly-accessed commands when opening or finishing a document, including opening new or existing files, defining document properties, and sharing information.

Office 2010 will continue with the usage of Open XML file formats from Office 2007, where it was first introduced.

Currently, the beta software available for free download includes Microsoft Word, PowerPoint, Outlook, Excel, OneNote, Access, Publisher, InfoPath, SharePoint Workspace, Communicator, Visio 2010 and Project 2010.

Microsoft said Office 2010 is expected to be available in the first half of the year.


Boys, Girls & Perverts - ChatRoulette

Infographic: ChatRoulette, "Nexting" by the Numbers

BY Cliff KuangWed Feb 24, 2010

Ladies really do have all the luck, and the perverts are a sizable minority, according to Casey Neistat's video study of ChatRoulette.


A month ago, we brought you an early look at ChatRoulette, and since then it's blown up, with coverage in New York, The New York Times, and even USA Today, of all places. But this is the first time we've seen anyone apply some science to the phenomenon.

The brave individual who took it upon himself to explain ChatRoulette in a single entertaining video is Casey Neistat. There are loads of stats, including the chart above. Notably, Neistat (a male) had only about a 5% stay rate--the rest of people immediately nexted him. But his pretty lady friend had exactly the opposite result:

Which is probably about the same result as you'd find on any old dating site. Except ChatRoulette is about a million times faster/awesomer/weirder.


Every company faces the problem of people leaving the company for better pay or profile.

Early this year, Mark, a senior software designer, got an offer from a prestigious international firm to work in its India operations developing specialized software. He was thrilled by the offer.

He had heard a lot about the CEO. The salary was great. The company had all the right systems in place employee-friendly human resources (HR) policies, a spanking new office,and the very best technology,even a canteen that served superb food.

Twice Mark was sent abroad for training. 'My learning curve is the sharpest it's ever been,' he said soon after he joined.

Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Mark walked out of the job.

Why did this talented employee leave ?

Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away.

The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called 'First Break All The Rules'. It came up with this surprising finding:

If you're losing good people, look to their immediate boss .Immediate boss is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization. And he 's the reason why people leave. When people leave they take knowledge,experienc e and contacts with them, straight to the competition.

'People leave managers not companies,' write the authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman.

Mostly manager drives people away?

HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave,but a thought has been planted. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third time, he looks for another job.

When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and no more.. By omitting to give the boss crucial information. Dev says: 'If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble. You don 't have your heart and soul in the job.'

Different managers can stress out employees in different ways - by being too controlling, too suspicious,too pushy, too critical, but they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit - often over a trivial issue.

Talented men leave. Dead wood doesn't.

Malaysia's 50 Most Influential Blogs

This list of the 50 most influential blogs is taken from our friend Gaman in his website :


The stats form Technorati and also compared to alexa.com seem pretty accurate. Might be useful :)

Some stats first:

  • 28% of the Malaysian Top 50 Bloggers write about personal stuff
  • 16% write about politics
  • 16% write about technology

No Blog Title Technorati Rank Category
1 kennysia.com Rank: 234 (4,828 links from 2,406 blogs) Personal
2 SapiensBryan.com Rank: 604 (2,676 links from 1,577 blogs) Technology
3 Hemmy.net Rank: 1,667 (1,862 links from 932 blogs) Humor
4 JeffOoi.com Screenshot Rank: 2,009 (2,824 links from 836 blogs) Politics
5 LiewCF.com Rank: 3,346 (1,532 links from 613 blogs) Technology
6 Yasmin The Story Teller Rank: 3,594 (1,026 links from 585 blogs) Entertainment
7 Afdlin Shauki Rank: 3,750 (874 links from 569 blogs) Entertainment
8 PaulTan.Org Rank: 7,360 (863 links from 369 blogs) Auto
9 Alex Allied Rank: 8,367 (589 links from 345 blogs) Personal
10 Rocky’s Bru Rank: 8,402 (1,015 links from 344 blogs) Politics
11 Lim Kit Siang Rank: 8,593 (826 links from 337 blogs) Politics
12 Hot-screensaver Rank: 8,976 (531 links from 323 blogs) Personal
13 EVERiBODi LAFU ROJAKS Rank: 9,411 (785 links from 310 blogs) Humor
14 5Xmom Rank: 10,439 (1,131 links from 297 blogs) Personal
15 masak-masak Rank: 11,717 (648 links from 269 blogs) Food
16 smashin’ pOpstar Rank: 12,698 (669 links from 254 blogs) Personal
17 cheeserland.com Rank: 13,733 (439 links from 236 blogs) Personal
18 Kahsoon.com Rank: 15,091 (427 links from 218 blogs) Humor
19 minishorts.net Rank: 16,256 (398 links from 202 blogs) Personal
20 Patric Teo Tokkok Rank: 18,289 (282 links from 182 blogs) Personal
21 FriedBeef’s Tech Rank: 20,119 (356 links from 168 blogs) Technology
22 Amanz.net Rank: 21,013 (430 links from 161 blogs) Technology
23 Kickdefella Rank: 21,251 (505 links from 159 blogs) Politics
24 CyberHackz.net Rank: 21,381 (558 links from 158 blogs) Technology
25 SultanMuzaffar Rank: 21,514 (324 links from 157 blogs) Entertainment
26 Fireangel Rank: 21,668 (348 links from 156 blogs) Personal
27 Lagu Top Masa Kini Rank: 22,088 (298 links from 153 blogs) Entertainment
28 jasiminne anorexic penguin Rank: 22,088 (264 links from 153 blogs) Personal
29 Gobala Krishnan Rank: 22,200 (365 links from 152 blogs) Marketing
30 The Scribe A Kadir Jasin Rank: 22,200 (269 links from 152 blogs) Politics
31 A Gonzo Journal Rank: 22,371 (381 links from 151 blogs) Personal
32 As Suanie Sees It Rank: 23,740 (457 links from 142 blogs) Personal
33 Nizam Zakaria - Limau Nipis Rank: 24,396 (269 links from 138 blogs) Literature
34 Susan Loone Rank: 25,146 (509 links from 134 blogs) Politics
35 ShaolinTiger.com Rank: 25,286 (337 links from 133 blogs) Personal
36 Bibliobibuli Rank: 25,921 (329 links from 130 blogs) Literature
37 MichaelOoi.net Rank: 26,568 (290 links from 127 blogs) Personal
38 SaifulSham.com Rank: 27,158 (386 links from 124 blogs) Marketing
39 Faisal Tehrani Rank: 27,639 (169 links from 122 blogs) Literature
40 Raymond.CC Blog Rank: 27,690 (276 links from 122 blogs) Technology
41 RantingbyMM Rank: 27,865 (241 links from 121 blogs) Politics
42 Anwar Ibrahim Rank: 28,570 (185 links from 120 blogs) Politics
43 Eudcation In Malaysia Rank: 29,571 (298 links from 116 blogs) Education
44 SmartUsaha Rank: 29,935 (298 links from 113 blogs) Marketing
45 RotorBlog.com Rank: 30,287 (170 links from 112 blogs) Technology
46 Vincent Chow Rank: 30,287 (158 links from 112 blogs) Humor
47 Babe in the City - KL Rank: 30,844 (398 links from 110 blogs) Food
48 kyspeaks.com Rank: 31,740 (261 links from 107 blogs) Food
49 Irfan Khairi Rank: 32,439 (398 links from 105 blogs) Marketing
50 Aisehman.org Rank: 32,858 (314 links from 104 blogs) Politics

How To Nail Your Job Interview

In these tough economic times you are lucky just to be offered a job interview. So before you show up for the interview, make sure you are prepared. The list below will help you to be prepared for your next job interview. Please read it before your next job interview. Good luck in your search for employment.

An interview gives you the opportunity to showcase your qualifications to an employer, so it pays to be well prepared. The following information provides some helpful hints.


  • Learn about the organization.
  • Have a specific job or jobs in mind.
  • Review your qualifications for the job.
  • Be ready to briefly describe your experience, showing how it relates it the job.
  • Be ready to answer broad questions, such as “Why should I hire you?” “Why do you want this job?” “What are your strengths and weaknesses?”
  • Practice an interview with a friend or relative.

Personal appearance:

  • Be well groomed.
  • Dress appropriately.
  • Do not chew gum or smoke.
  • Go easy on the cologne/perfume.

The interview:

  • Be 10 minutes early.
  • Learn the name of your interviewer and greet him or her with a firm handshake while making direct eye contact.
  • Use good manners with everyone you meet.
  • Relax and answer each question concisely.
  • Use proper English—avoid slang.
  • Be cooperative and enthusiastic.
  • Use body language to show interest—use eye contact and don’t slouch.
  • Ask questions about the position and the organization, but avoid questions whose answers can easily be found on the company Web site.
  • Also avoid asking questions about salary and benefits unless a job offer is made.
  • Thank the interviewer when you leave and shake hands.
  • Send a short thank you note.

Information to bring to an interview:

  • Social Security card.
  • Government-issued identification (driver’s license).
  • Resume or application. Although not all employers require a resume, you should be able to furnish the interviewer information about your education, training, and previous employment.
  • References. Employers typically require three references. Get permission before using anyone as a reference. Make sure that they will give you a good reference. Try to avoid using relatives as references.
  • Transcripts. Employers may require an official copy of transcripts to verify grades, coursework, dates of attendance, and highest grade completed or degree awarded.
Article by Rick D. hourlycareers.com