Another Time, Another Place...

A women needs a reason to cheat, a man just needs a woman.

Isn't it funny...

To tell you the truth, I was actually finishing my post on the title 'Is there life after work?' and all of the sudden, Wham! my laptop went blank. It turns out that the power cable was not plugged in properly and it just so happens that it took the time to go dead right as I was about to put the finishing touches in my post.

It WAS about four paragraphs long and I was just about to write something that is going to be profound which will make the whole post sweet and meaningful.

I guess even my own computer knows when to shut down when it sees crappy writing. And so it turned out that my very first critique happens to be my very own computer. That's life for you....

But isn't it funny that these kinds of things happen to us on a regular basis?

When you go of to work on a public holiday, when you met someone who you think will be the love of your life but turns out to be gay, when you have completed an assignment ahead of schedule only to find out that your doing someone else’s work, to zig when you should have zipped, to boldly go where no one has gone before and found out WHY no one ever went there in the first place and to always remember that one simple rule -

'If you want something done right, you don't do it at all...'

This is how it works...

This is how it works
It feels a little worse
Than when we drove our hearse
Right through that screaming crowd
While laughing up a storm
Until we were just bone
Until it got so warm
That none of us could sleep
And all the styrofoam
Began to melt away
We tried to find some worms
To aid in the decay
But none of them were home
Inside their catacomb
A million ancient bees
Began to sting our knees
While we were on our knees
Praying that disease
Would leave the ones we love
And never come again
On the radio
We heard November Rain
That solo's really long
But it's a pretty song
We listened to it twice
'Cause the DJ was asleep
This is how it works
You're young until you're not
You love until you don't
You try until you can't
You laugh until you cry
You cry until you laugh
And everyone must breathe
Until their dying breath
No, this is how it works
You peer inside yourself
You take the things you like
And try to love the things you took
And then you take that love you made
And stick it into some
Someone else's heart
Pumping someone else's blood
And walking arm in arm
You hope it don't get harmed
But even if it does
You'll just do it all again
And on the radio
You hear November Rain
That solo's awful long
But it's a good refrain
You listen to it twice
'Cause the DJ is asleep
On the radio (oh oh oh)
On the radio
On the radio -uh oh
On the radio -uh oh
On the radio -uh oh
On the radio.

Of love and other stuffs...

Funny...: “To die by your side is such a heavenly way to die.” -The Smiths.

What is love?

The question that has fascinated me till today and till the day I lay to rest. As there is no one answer to it and almost never the same answer given if you ask anyone the question "what is love?". I don't understand why people respond differently when asked this simple question, but what I do know is that you will find more relevant answers form people without even asking them the questions in the first place; all you have to do is sit a while, then watch and listen... and maybe you will come across conversations that reveals what love truly means:

Love is when you walk all the way to the other side of the classroom to sharpen your pencil in order to walk by him/her, then you realize that your pencil... is a BALLPEN.

# 2

" Tom had learned anything... it was that you can't ascribe great cosmic significance to a simple earthly event. Coincidence, that's all anything ever is, nothing more than coincidence... Tom had finally learned, there are no miracles. There's no such thing as fate, nothing is meant to be. He knew, he was sure of it now... or is he?" - 500 Days of Summer

# 3

Math tells us three of the saddest love stories:

TANGENT; lines who had one chance to meet and then parted forever

PARALLEL; lines who were never meant to meet, and

ASYMPTOTES; who can get closer and closer but will never be together.

# 4

There are 2 dilemmas that rattle the human skull:

"How do you get rid of someone who won't go..." and

"How do you hang on to someone who won't stay?"

# 5

Clementine: This is it, Joel. It's going to be gone soon.

Joel: I know.

Clementine: What do we do?

Joel: Enjoy it.

# 6

Tom: What happened? Why - why didn't they work out?

Summer: What always happens. Life.

# 7

"The only problem with time mending things is that it takes a little longer."

"You lost the right to touch me when you left me."

"Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit." - Watermelon, Marian Keyes

# 8

Susannah: "Why is it that we can love so much that which only makes us cry?"

Irene: "Because it is that which calls us home to the heart." -By the Light of My Father's Smile, Alice Walker

# 9

Joel: [voice over] random thoughts for Valentine's day. Today is a holiday invented by greeting card companies to make people feel like crap.

# 10

"She said, 'I'm so afraid.' And I said, 'Why?' and she said, 'Because I'm so profoundly happy, Dr. Rasul. Happiness like this is frightening.' I asked her why and she said, 'They only let you be this happy if they're preparing to take something from you,' and I said, 'Hush up now. Enough of this silliness." - Kite Runner

# 11

"I think that there are some things you don't heal from. Not in this lifetime anyway," -Mad Dog, AW

# 12

"Tom: Ok but wait–wait. What happens, if you fall in love?

Summer:[she scoffs]

Tom: What?

Summer: You don’t believe that, do you?

Tom: It’s love, it’s not Santa Claus."

- 500 Days of Summer

# 13

"Summer: I woke up one morning and I just knew.

Tom: Knew what?

Summer: What I was never sure of with you."

- 500 Days of Summer

# 14

"Paul: Robin is better than the girl of my dreams. She's real." - 500 Days of Summer

# 15

Tom: I love how she makes me feel, like anything's possible, or like life is worth it.

# 16

Tom: Nobody loves Ringo Starr.

Summer: That's what I love about him.

# 17

Joel: [narration as Clementine acknowledges him by raising her coffee mug] Why do I fall in love with every woman I see who shows me the least bit of attention?

# 18

"I believe there is one soul in all our time on earth that just matches our own. We are always looking for it, moving in its direction, but so often it is never found," - Manuelito,AW

# 19

In life, you will realize that the people you meet have a purpose. Some were put there to test you, some would use you, some would teach you. And some would bring out the better if not the best in you. Some may even cause you pain and heartache but one must learn to move on. So let go of the people who can't treat you right and hold on to those who love you back and see your worth...

# 20

"There's no such thing as love, it's fantasy..." -Summer

Hotel Song...

Come in, come in
Come into my world I've got to show
Show, show you
Come into my bed
I've got to know
Know, know you

I have dreams of Orca whales and owls
But I wake up in fear
You will never be my...
You will never be my fool
Will never be my fool

Floaters in my eyes
Wake up in a hotel room
Cigarettes and lies
I am a child; it's too soon

I have dreams of Orca whales and owls
But I wake up in fear
You will never be my...
You will never be my fool
Will never be my fool

A little bag of cocaine
A little bag of cocaine
So who's the girl wearing my dress?
I figured out her number
Inside a paper napkin
But I don't know her address; I wade downstairs

The porter smiles to me a smile
I've bought
With a couple of gold coins
A sign that I've been caught

I have dreams of Orca whales and owls
But I wake up in fear
You will never be my...
You will never be my dear
Will never be my dear, dear friend
Dear, dear friend, dear, dear friend

A little bag of cocaine
A little bag of cocaine
So who's the girl wearing my dress?
I figured out her number
Inside a paper napkin
But I don't know her address

Come in, come in
Come into my world I've got to show
Show, show you
Come into my bed
I've got to know
Know, know you

I have dreams of Orca whales and owls
But I wake up in fear
You will never be my...
You will never be my dear
Will never be my dear, dear friend
Dear, dear friend, dear, dear friend

WHAT A RISK!

"Someone suggests that;

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas, your dreams, before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.

You may avoid suffering and sorrow if you don’t risk,
But you simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love or live.

The greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.

The person who risks nothing,
Does nothing and has nothing.

Only a person who risks is free."

Love is a temporary madness.

Love is a temporary madness.

It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision.

You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.

Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.
- Captain Corelli's Mandolin6. "Love is the beauty of the soul."
--St. Augustine

" The greatest pain that comes with love is loving someone you can't have."

The Next Small Thing : Why bigger isn't always better

Back to the Basics: How to use your (lack of) size to your advantage

Jason Fried, creator of some of the industry's most successful new Web applications, is the champion of an approach he calls "Getting Real." While developed with software companies in mind, Fried's principles can apply to any small business that strives to do more with less.

Underdo your competition: Businesses get caught up in a cycle of adding more features and services. Great opportunities exist for those who create the same products, but with more simplicity and ease of use.

Create services you would use: Few great product and service ideas come as a result of groupthink and committee meetings. Democracy is great, Fried says, but in the product-development arena, it rarely leads to great results. Great products are the result of solving problems for yourself—and then offering solutions to others.

Fund yourself: The more money you have, the more you'll waste, Fried says. He admits that outside funding is necessary for capital-intensive businesses, but for many service businesses—especially those utilizing technology or operating online—being able to turn your business concept into reality is getting less expensive by the day.

Take half: List all the features you'd like on your product and cut them in half, Fried advises. Then, cut that list in half. Being driven by time and budget rather than by your dream list of features will result in a much more solid, workable product that won't break the bank.

Call off the meetings: Fried is not a fan of endless meetings or documents filled with specifications and details that no one reads. He'd prefer to focus on the essentials—and those don't require a lot of meetings.

- By Rex Hammock, editor www.mybusinessmag.com
Full story @ http://www.mybusinessmag.com/fullstory.php3?sid=1413

Boys, Girls & Perverts - ChatRoulette

Infographic: ChatRoulette, "Nexting" by the Numbers

BY Cliff KuangWed Feb 24, 2010

Ladies really do have all the luck, and the perverts are a sizable minority, according to Casey Neistat's video study of ChatRoulette.

ChatRoulette

A month ago, we brought you an early look at ChatRoulette, and since then it's blown up, with coverage in New York, The New York Times, and even USA Today, of all places. But this is the first time we've seen anyone apply some science to the phenomenon.

The brave individual who took it upon himself to explain ChatRoulette in a single entertaining video is Casey Neistat. There are loads of stats, including the chart above. Notably, Neistat (a male) had only about a 5% stay rate--the rest of people immediately nexted him. But his pretty lady friend had exactly the opposite result:

Which is probably about the same result as you'd find on any old dating site. Except ChatRoulette is about a million times faster/awesomer/weirder.

WHY EMPLOYEES LEAVE ORGANISATIONS ? - Azim Premji, CEO- Wipro

Every company faces the problem of people leaving the company for better pay or profile.

Early this year, Mark, a senior software designer, got an offer from a prestigious international firm to work in its India operations developing specialized software. He was thrilled by the offer.

He had heard a lot about the CEO. The salary was great. The company had all the right systems in place employee-friendly human resources (HR) policies, a spanking new office,and the very best technology,even a canteen that served superb food.

Twice Mark was sent abroad for training. 'My learning curve is the sharpest it's ever been,' he said soon after he joined.

Last week, less than eight months after he joined, Mark walked out of the job.

Why did this talented employee leave ?

Arun quit for the same reason that drives many good people away.

The answer lies in one of the largest studies undertaken by the Gallup Organization. The study surveyed over a million employees and 80,000 managers and was published in a book called 'First Break All The Rules'. It came up with this surprising finding:

If you're losing good people, look to their immediate boss .Immediate boss is the reason people stay and thrive in an organization. And he 's the reason why people leave. When people leave they take knowledge,experienc e and contacts with them, straight to the competition.

'People leave managers not companies,' write the authors Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman.

Mostly manager drives people away?

HR experts say that of all the abuses, employees find humiliation the most intolerable. The first time, an employee may not leave,but a thought has been planted. The second time, that thought gets strengthened. The third time, he looks for another job.

When people cannot retort openly in anger, they do so by passive aggression. By digging their heels in and slowing down. By doing only what they are told to do and no more.. By omitting to give the boss crucial information. Dev says: 'If you work for a jerk, you basically want to get him into trouble. You don 't have your heart and soul in the job.'

Different managers can stress out employees in different ways - by being too controlling, too suspicious,too pushy, too critical, but they forget that workers are not fixed assets, they are free agents. When this goes on too long, an employee will quit - often over a trivial issue.

Talented men leave. Dead wood doesn't.

Malaysia's 50 Most Influential Blogs

This list of the 50 most influential blogs is taken from our friend Gaman in his website :

http://www.sabahan.com/2007/02/06/50-most-influential-blogs-in-malaysia

The stats form Technorati and also compared to alexa.com seem pretty accurate. Might be useful :)

Some stats first:

28% of the Malaysian Top 50 Bloggers write about personal stuff
16% write about politics
16% write about technology

No	Blog Title	Technorati Rank	Category
1	kennysia.com	Rank: 234 (4,828 links from 2,406 blogs)	Personal
2	SapiensBryan.com	Rank: 604 (2,676 links from 1,577 blogs)	Technology
3	Hemmy.net	Rank: 1,667 (1,862 links from 932 blogs)	Humor
4	JeffOoi.com Screenshot	Rank: 2,009 (2,824 links from 836 blogs)	Politics
5	LiewCF.com	Rank: 3,346 (1,532 links from 613 blogs)	Technology
6	Yasmin The Story Teller	Rank: 3,594 (1,026 links from 585 blogs)	Entertainment
7	Afdlin Shauki	Rank: 3,750 (874 links from 569 blogs)	Entertainment
8	PaulTan.Org	Rank: 7,360 (863 links from 369 blogs)	Auto
9	Alex Allied	Rank: 8,367 (589 links from 345 blogs)	Personal
10	Rocky’s Bru	Rank: 8,402 (1,015 links from 344 blogs)	Politics
11	Lim Kit Siang	Rank: 8,593 (826 links from 337 blogs)	Politics
12	Hot-screensaver	Rank: 8,976 (531 links from 323 blogs)	Personal
13	EVERiBODi LAFU ROJAKS	Rank: 9,411 (785 links from 310 blogs)	Humor
14	5Xmom	Rank: 10,439 (1,131 links from 297 blogs)	Personal
15	masak-masak	Rank: 11,717 (648 links from 269 blogs)	Food
16	smashin’ pOpstar	Rank: 12,698 (669 links from 254 blogs)	Personal
17	cheeserland.com	Rank: 13,733 (439 links from 236 blogs)	Personal
18	Kahsoon.com	Rank: 15,091 (427 links from 218 blogs)	Humor
19	minishorts.net	Rank: 16,256 (398 links from 202 blogs)	Personal
20	Patric Teo Tokkok	Rank: 18,289 (282 links from 182 blogs)	Personal
21	FriedBeef’s Tech	Rank: 20,119 (356 links from 168 blogs)	Technology
22	Amanz.net	Rank: 21,013 (430 links from 161 blogs)	Technology
23	Kickdefella	Rank: 21,251 (505 links from 159 blogs)	Politics
24	CyberHackz.net	Rank: 21,381 (558 links from 158 blogs)	Technology
25	SultanMuzaffar	Rank: 21,514 (324 links from 157 blogs)	Entertainment
26	Fireangel	Rank: 21,668 (348 links from 156 blogs)	Personal
27	Lagu Top Masa Kini	Rank: 22,088 (298 links from 153 blogs)	Entertainment
28	jasiminne anorexic penguin	Rank: 22,088 (264 links from 153 blogs)	Personal
29	Gobala Krishnan	Rank: 22,200 (365 links from 152 blogs)	Marketing
30	The Scribe A Kadir Jasin	Rank: 22,200 (269 links from 152 blogs)	Politics
31	A Gonzo Journal	Rank: 22,371 (381 links from 151 blogs)	Personal
32	As Suanie Sees It	Rank: 23,740 (457 links from 142 blogs)	Personal
33	Nizam Zakaria - Limau Nipis	Rank: 24,396 (269 links from 138 blogs)	Literature
34	Susan Loone	Rank: 25,146 (509 links from 134 blogs)	Politics
35	ShaolinTiger.com	Rank: 25,286 (337 links from 133 blogs)	Personal
36	Bibliobibuli	Rank: 25,921 (329 links from 130 blogs)	Literature
37	MichaelOoi.net	Rank: 26,568 (290 links from 127 blogs)	Personal
38	SaifulSham.com	Rank: 27,158 (386 links from 124 blogs)	Marketing
39	Faisal Tehrani	Rank: 27,639 (169 links from 122 blogs)	Literature
40	Raymond.CC Blog	Rank: 27,690 (276 links from 122 blogs)	Technology
41	RantingbyMM	Rank: 27,865 (241 links from 121 blogs)	Politics
42	Anwar Ibrahim	Rank: 28,570 (185 links from 120 blogs)	Politics
43	Eudcation In Malaysia	Rank: 29,571 (298 links from 116 blogs)	Education
44	SmartUsaha	Rank: 29,935 (298 links from 113 blogs)	Marketing
45	RotorBlog.com	Rank: 30,287 (170 links from 112 blogs)	Technology
46	Vincent Chow	Rank: 30,287 (158 links from 112 blogs)	Humor
47	Babe in the City - KL	Rank: 30,844 (398 links from 110 blogs)	Food
48	kyspeaks.com	Rank: 31,740 (261 links from 107 blogs)	Food
49	Irfan Khairi	Rank: 32,439 (398 links from 105 blogs)	Marketing
50	Aisehman.org	Rank: 32,858 (314 links from 104 blogs)	Politics